Many women today take a lady’s only or girl’s trip away from spouses, kids and work in order to have fun and share in a bond of friendship. While vacations are fun in the sun, snow, surf or city they can also be very stressful events. Imagine as a female or a mom the stress levels associated with planning a vacation for your family, let alone a few of your closest and sometimes not so close friends. Women should always have friends and close ones at that. Not just friends you go out with but friends you will confide in.
When the kids grow up and leave the nest, your friends will be the ones that will cry and smile with you. Some of you have a spouse and some of you don’t have a spouse to share those moments with and for many single parents, both moms and dads, you will more than likely enter your retirement years and empty next years needing a support system – your friends. You will never understand a true friend unless you’ve fought with them and made up. For me, my friendships have lasted longer than any of my relationships or marriages. You grow together and you bond together and that’s why taking a trip with friends when you’re past your twenties and have gone through the “Girls Gone Wild” stage is an essential part of living life and bonding.
Over the weekend I took a girl’s trip with a few of my closest friends and one not so close but NOW close friend. It was about a year in planning to eventually head to Cabo San Lucas. As we were planning we tossed around Miami and other places but a friend’s husband suggested Cabo and then we were hooked. I had a blogger friend, Jill from Cruise Therapy that found a package for us and once we started paying the money, we knew that we were in for it. Not only was Cabo beautiful but the resort we stayed at was wonderful. We stayed at an all inclusive at the Riu Palace. Air conditioned guest rooms, satellite television for novellas and fully stocked mini bar with Dos Equis, and hard liquors abound.
While I can admit our personalities did clash at times, at the end of it all, we still remained friends. Here are some ways that you can keep your friendships intact when you go on vacation.
1) Don’t Take Things Personally – people have their own unique visions and ideas for how they want to spend their vacation. Some people just want to relax while others want to see everything. There will be things that you will get to do, things you don’t really want to do and there will be things you want to do that you won’t be able to do. Don’t take those things personally when they come about. Also, your friends will say things that might get you upset. Remember that at most times, it is unintentional and not coming from a malicious place so don’t take it personal. Forgive easily and quickly and move on to the next activity.
2) Time is an important resource so use it wisely – do not over schedule time and activities. I think our trip lent itself to some over scheduling and for me personally I value my sleep so if I ended up not going somewhere with the girls, I didn’t go. That was the case for everyone. We ended up picking up activities for some great bargain prices after going through a timeshare presentation but for next time I’d skip the timeshare prezo for some sleep. We booked 4 different activities and I ended up not having the energy for two of them. I also ended up adding the waverunner to my itinerary and so I’m very thankful that my friends were accommodating for those changes. This goes back to “not taking things personally” when changes occur or when friends want to do something else. Remember not to waste everyone’s time and try to be on time. We ended up missing a scheduled pick up time for zip line and while we can’t get that time back, we did substitute it with another activity. Flexibility is the key in these kinds of situations.
3) Be open and honest with your communication –
I would probably add that we should also be kind in our communications. If you don’t want to do something or if you don’t like it then you should speak up. Be firm with those things that are important to you. Keep communication open but remember not to take it personal if they don’t agree. Be honest in your feelings and above all listen with an open mind. Let things go and learn how to resolve issues and disputes quickly.
4) Don’t over-share – The reason why I say this is because some principles, values, traditions and norms run deep. Don’t feel the need to overshare your personal drama, your political affiliations and your religious beliefs. Other topics to avoid is to compare parenting styles or relationship styles in a way that makes it sound like one is better than the other. As your friend, we know this about you already you don’t need to convince us. How you do things in your house doesn’t necessarily mean it will work in my house and vice versa. Getting into a shouting match over belief systems of any kind can just ruin a friendship and a vacation.
5) Allow people their personal space – This doesn’t just go for the first 3 feet within their bodies. This goes for their stuff, their possessions, and their voice. Do not inconvenience your friends if you over packed and make them responsible for your things. The case is the same if you underpacked. If you didn’t pack enough, then head to a store and replace your items. Nothing is more annoying to friends than constant borrowing of things, clothes, toiletries, etc if it was not agreed upon earlier. Also, don’t be a hater about your actions or inaction later on. Never try to justify your behavior, actions, or shortcomings as something your friends HAVE to accept. You can control your own behavior but not theirs.
So are you planning on taking a girl’s trip with friends? Here are some vendors that I’d like to recommend.
Jill over at Cruise Therapy – Based in the US in TX and specializes in Cruise travel but helped us plan our Cabo trip.
If you are planning a trip to Hawaii, I used Bruce Fisher and his crew at Hawaii-Aloha.com since they know Hawaii very well. I’m originally from there born and raised so I was impressed with them considering they are local.
Disclaimer: This is not a sponsored post. All expenses were paid for by Dallas Single Mom.